If You Decide To Leave, Don't Go Back!

What would you do if you found out that your mate of several years had been cheating on you? Would you leave? What if you left and over the next weeks, he or she begged you to stay, would you come back? What if your mate never spend time with you and your family (children), but always have time for other people? Would you leave? What would you do if your mate didn't touch bases with you before weekends to see if you wanted to do something and most of the time (45 weekends out of 52 in a calendar year) you were home alone or attending social or family events without him or her? Would you leave? If you look back at the questions, it is apparent that the two of you really don't have a relationship. It takes two people to be if not equally, somewhat equally involved or engaged in the other person's life to technically call it a relationship. In other words, you are the one in a relation with someone else who does not want to be on the ship!

So ladies and gents, if you decided to leave a relationship for a good cause, don't go back! You've heard the saying that you can't teach an old dog new tricks. Well first, you are not trying to teach anyone anything. Somethings are automatic if that person is truly in love with you. He or she will only be with you and not sleep around with other people. There is no trick here to be learned. Either your mate is an honest and decent person or he/she isn't. Secondly, if a person loves you, he or she will want to spend time with you, your children and mom and dad as well. They would want to share family events together. No tricks here! Who ever heard of a couple only spending 7 out of 52 weekends doing something together or some other low number? Come on - This is not a trick either. The person just doesn't value you and does not want to be with you either.

So I will repeat again, if you leave your mate for a "good cause", DON'T GO BACK. 45 weekends is a lot of time to waste on a fraction of a relationship waiting!